The Long Version

Sinclair Sexsmith is a writer, performer, and teacher focused on sovereignty, healing, and communication through the personal examinations of sex, gender, and relationships. Their preferred gender pronouns (PGP) are they and them, and they prefer the masculine honorific of “Mr.” Their multi-media work in hypertext, visual image, and words study critical feminist & gender theory, sexual freedom, social change activism, archetypes, and writing as a tool for self-awareness.

Coming from a background of spoken word and performance poetry, Sinclair is a seasoned performer and workshop leader who read their works in bars and at open mics for years, which honed their skills to command a room. They have done performances and workshops on gender and sexuality around the United States, from grassroots organizations to community colleges to Ivy League universities, and currently teaches community and academic workshops and classes on gender, sexuality, healing, communication, and getting the sex life you want.

They have produced many websites in their 15 years online, including Queer Eye Candy, Top Hot Butches, and the award-winning personal online writing project (aka “blog”), Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top, which they have been writing since 2006.

With one self-published spoken word CD, For the Record, in 2005, and three self-published chapbooks of poetry, Mr. Sexsmith’s most recent book of poems Fervor: Poems from the East Village was released on Pleasure Boat Studio Literary Press in 2008. Their smut stories can be found published in anthologies such as Best Lesbian Erotica 2006, 2007, 2009, and 2011, and their writings on gender theory through personal experience are included inVisible: A Femmethology Volume II, and Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme. They have written columns for SexIs about New York City, CarnalNation about Radical Masculinity, AfterEllen about pop culture through a butch perspective, Lambda Literary Foundation about lesbian erotica books, What They Are Asking answering sexuality questions, and Fearless Press about relationships.

For a year in New York City, they co-produced and co-hosted Sideshow: The Queer Literary Carnival reading series with poet and performer Cheryl B., bringing local and touring poets, writers and performers from around North American into an exciting, queer environment which honored our marginalized stories. They still host events in New York and beyond.

They hold degrees in both social change and creative writing from the University of Washington, and studied and taught writing and performance poetry at the Bent Writing Institute for queers in Seattle. They have also trained with the Body Electric School in erotic energy healing and awareness since 1999.

In their spare time, Mr. Sexsmith enjoys reading voraciously, swing dancing, topping, and cooking, and has been known to get on their knees in order to fix the strappy sandals of a queer femme.

Awards & Recognition

The Quick Version

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH ( is an erotic coach, educator, and writer. They write the award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at since 2006, have contributed to more than twenty anthologies, and edited Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. They travel frequently to teach workshops on gender and sexuality.

Photo by Lauren Cohn-Frankel