Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” (AfterEllen), who “is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places” (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. Sinclair identifies as a white nonbinary butch dominant, a survivor and an introvert. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net.

Recent Publications

Review of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5 by Shiane D. Jacocks

Throughout this anthology, both pain and pleasure are often desired, and this looks different for each person, based on their needs and wants. Some stories do tackle depression, self-harm, and trauma. However, it is held with precision and tact. They ask the question; how does one find pleasure and safety when this is reoccurring? In …

The Dildorks Episode 215: Touch Me So Write

This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith, writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5! We touch on consent in erotica, the evolving definition of “lesbian,” disability representation in erotic media, and more.

Sharing sex-positive shit — On Queer Street

On Queer Street includes a link to my article on Butch and Nonbinary Identity in their October roundup: “Their essay is a brilliant sociopolitical analysis the potentially oxymoronic idea of identifying as both “butch” and “non-binary” – and it reminded me how much I still have to learn about my own gender. “When looking at …


Fucking with Gender

Sex and gender and gender and sex. Sinclair’s signature and most demanded workshop. Now with coloring pages!

The Sexual Politics of BDSM

Consent, agency, and feminism. Dig deep into the theories, communities, and politics behind BDSM.

Non-Binary in Theory and Practice

Break the binary. Go beyond gender roles. Explore pronouns, expression, identity, and perception.

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For interviews or requests: contact sinclair@sugarbutch.net

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