Erotic embodiment is â€œa radical, sexual expression and a radical way to engage with our bodies, with our lives, with sex, with intimacy, with spirit,â€ says Sexsmith, whose work as a sacred intimate is about â€œbeing in relationship,â€ which may involve two-way touch, deep explorations in intimacy, and other parameters that can be negotiated between practitioner and client.
â€œReally, the goal is a very intimate relationship that includes sexuality, it includes erotics, it can include BDSM,â€ says Sexsmith. â€œDesire, sometimes kink, sensations, power dynamics, all of those things â€” anything that could happen. Like emotional closeness. And itâ€™s practicing those thingsâ€¦it can be totally transformative for peopleâ€™s relationships because itâ€™s a practice.â€