Erotic embodiment is “a radical, sexual expression and a radical way to engage with our bodies, with our lives, with sex, with intimacy, with spirit,” says Sexsmith, whose work as a sacred intimate is about “being in relationship,” which may involve two-way touch, deep explorations in intimacy, and other parameters that can be negotiated between practitioner and client.
“Really, the goal is a very intimate relationship that includes sexuality, it includes erotics, it can include BDSM,” says Sexsmith. “Desire, sometimes kink, sensations, power dynamics, all of those things — anything that could happen. Like emotional closeness. And it’s practicing those things…it can be totally transformative for people’s relationships because it’s a practice.”