Sinclair Sexsmith is “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” (AfterEllen), who “is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places” (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair identifies as a white non-binary butch dominant, a survivor and an introvert, and use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. Follow all their writings — public and private — at patreon.com/mrsexsmith.

Recent Publications

“Sex Outside the Lines”, Interview on The Advocate

When Sinclair Sexsmith — a butch nonbinary feminist dom, and author of the award-winning sex blog Sugarbutch Chronicles — got married last year, it wasn’t to the kind of person Sexsmith had always imagined committing to. That’s because Sexsmith (who uses they/them pronouns) had been “femme-oriented” for most of their adult life, preferring queer femmes …


Fucking with Gender

Sex and gender and gender and sex. Sinclair’s signature and most demanded workshop. Now with coloring pages!

The Sexual Politics of BDSM

Consent, agency, and feminism. Dig deep into the theories, communities, and politics behind BDSM.

Non-Binary in Theory and Practice

Break the binary. Go beyond gender roles. Explore pronouns, expression, identity, and perception.

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