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Who is Sinclair?

What kind of workshops?

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& Other Frequently Asked Questions

What’s going on for queer folks on college campuses today?

some facts about the current climate in North American universities

Are your queer students:

  • Silenced in class by overbearing cisgender heterosexual students

  • Faced with binary choices (like “male” or “female” bathrooms) every day

  • Struggling with acceptance from their family, their friends, themselves

  • Adequately represented in the curriculum they’re studying

  • Getting harassed on campus?

Don’t you want to:

  • Build a reputation as a queer- and trans-friendly school

  • Enhance your diversity offerings

  • Listen to the mentors your students are already looking up to

  • Open up conversations about queer, gender, kink, polyamory, and relationships

  • Encourage confidence, connection, and empowerment?

When Sinclair visits your campus for a workshop, the important conversations about who you are in the world through sexuality, gender, and intersectionality will deepen.


Standing room only for my workshop at the IvyQ conference, Yale, 2012

Some universities that have supported their LGBTQ students through my workshops …

colleges Mr. Sexsmith has lectured at include Harvard, Yale, Rice, Brandeis, Brown, and many, many more

The workshop was thought-provoking, super useful, and so encouraging. Sinclair was even more amazing than I expected . . . helpful, enthusiastic, open, and compassionate, and I felt really valued, welcomed, and accepted.

— Lindsay
workshop participant

Hey, I’m Sinclair Sexsmith.

Photo of Mr. Sexsmith by Meg Allen

I’m a writer, and I’m fascinated by the process of becoming one’s fullest self, particularly in the context of marginalized sexualities and intersecting systems of oppression.

I have a lot of credentials:

  • Degrees in both Gender Studies and Writing from the University of Washington Seattle, 2004
  • Fifteen years of studying identity and oppression
  • Currently, a professional writer and identity theorist
  • Teaching workshops at colleges since 2009
  • Dozens of universities have hosted my workshops, including Harvard, Yale, NYU, Columbia, Smith College, Mills College, Stanford University, Swarthmore, and more
  • My gender theory essays and erotica have been published in dozens of books
  • Read my curriculum vitae if you’d like to know more about my credentials

As a queer, butch, transmasculine, genderqueer, non-monogamous, kinky person, I have a unique perspective on self-development within marginalized populations. Most of what I know comes from my own personal studies of trying to make my own life make more sense.

I want your life to make more sense for you, too.

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These are your workshop options!

I’ve curated and created workshops
that suit you and your student’s needs.

How to book me:
1. choose your workshop topic
2. Click here to email me to secure a date & answer any questions
3. I’ll email you back within 48 hours.

Workshop: GO GET LAID

Presented at Drew University (NJ), Brown University (RI), Northwestern University (Chicago), Smith College (Northampton, MA), Swarthmore University (Philadelphia), Harvard University (Cambridge, MA), and more.

Most popular workshop!

Gender can be an aphrodisiac. As Tara Hardy says: “When I took my real gender out of the closet, it was like the second coming of christmas.” Let’s explore gender expression, identities, labels, transcending the mutually exclusive binaries, queer culture, and hot sweaty sex. Academics love deconstructing gender—and yet, the world is still gendered, so how do we navigate it? How do you build your gender intentionally? Are there ways gender can “hurt” less? And how do you develop your gender in ways that enhance and sustain a satisfying sex life? (‘Cause really, don’t we all want better sex?)

Developed explicitly for students of gender studies, sexuality studies, and queer studies who want to put their theory into practice, this workshop covers Sinclair’s Best Sex Secrets and Gender Tenets and an interactive Q&A to discuss your burning questions.


Traditional publishing through books, magazines, and literary journals have typically excluded gay stories, characters, revelations, and identity development. Navigating the world of literature can be extremely othering as a queer person attempting to write about queer lives, constantly being questioned for our cultural representations in writing. But Judy Shepard says that coming out is the most important thing we can do, that it is a political act, which encourages and advocates for visibility. Telling our stories is one way to make ourselves visible. Come to this interactive writing workshop and learn about the history of queer stories, what the queer story looks like, alternate forms of publishing such as chapbooks and blogs, and begin to form your own queer story. Bring paper and a writing utensil!


No, this isn’t about sex work, nor is it about landing the 6-figure executive position at a gay rights non-profit. This workshop focuses on tools of confidence and authenticity to help you see a path to your dream job, and help you start making advances toward the job now, while you’re a student. You have an amazing gift to contribute to the world beyond these college campus hedge walls—what is it?
Premium option: Add 2-3 small group (7 people max) 1-hour breakout sessions for individualized guidance for students from Sinclair, or up to 10 individual coaching sessions to sculpt the path into your ultimately successful future.


In addition to leading workshops, Sinclair is an experienced performance poet. Add the “Sweet & Rough” 30-minute poetry set and a 45 minute open mic for the workshop participants, hosted by Mr. Sexsmith, showcasing the voices of queer, genderqueer, and trans students on your campus. Book both the performance and the writing workshop together for a showcase of queer voices on campus!

Want a custom workshop on a specific topic? Browse through past workshop offerings, and make a special request.

“I attended your workshop and learned a lot about myself and my significant other in the hours following the workshop . . . what an effective teacher you are! (PS, You are waaay hot and smart in person.)”

The CSPH, Rhode Island


Questions Asked Frequently


I travel all over teaching and performing. (I can come see you, too!)

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I’m very excited to be working with OUTmedia! They are the is a leading queer cultural activist organization. Use the contact form on their website or email info@outmedia.org to book a workshop with me.

Resistance begins with people confronting pain, whether it’s theirs or somebody else’s, and wanting to do something to change it.

—bell hooks, Yearning